So yes, the bad news is that living with a roommate is NOT easy. But the good news is that <\/span>conflicts can always be resolved<\/a>! All you need is a little bit of wisdom and the courage to initiate the conversation\u2026<\/span><\/p>\n [divider]<\/p>\n Couple therapist<\/span>\u00a0<\/span>Susan Heitler<\/span><\/a> suggests that you <\/span>sit your roommate down and explain to him or her how his or her behavior is affecting you.<\/p>\n Be as <\/span>specific as you can, and put the emphasis on the <\/span>consequences rather than the <\/span>behavior itself (i.e. no finger-pointing or judging!). For example, you might say something like, \u201c<\/span>Hey, I couldn\u2019t get much sleep last night and my teachers could tell. I kept falling asleep in class today.<\/span>\u201d Or, you can say something like, \u201c<\/span>I\u2019m genuinely concerned about your health. Maybe you should take measures to reduce your intake?<\/span>\u201d If your roommate continues his or her drinking patterns\/behaviors after a few \u201ctalks,\u201d <\/span>seek professional help<\/span><\/a>.<\/span><\/p>\n Counseling psychologist <\/span>Will Meek<\/span><\/a> suggests <\/span>having a \u201cplayful but serious\u201d talk with your roommate. You can say something like, \u201c<\/span>Hey, it sure sounded like you were having fun last night, but I was wondering if you could keep the noise level down a little bit? Those earplugs didn\u2019t help.<\/span>\u201d\u00a0<\/span>Awkward, but a must-do!<\/p>\n Give your roommate the time and the space he\/she needs, but invite him\/her into conversations or to small hangouts every once in a while. However, if the answer is a \u2018no\u2019 (or a mere silence), don\u2019t take it personally<\/span>. Instead, suggest movies you can watch together in the dorm room or recommend a book. Keep in mind that <\/span>introverts prefer planned-out activities over spontaneous ones<\/span>, so if you\u2019re going to invite them to an event, do so <\/span>in advance<\/span>! Give them the time to plan ahead.<\/span><\/p>\n Keep your side of the room <\/span>CLEAN as an example\/model, but <\/span>don\u2019t clean for them, as this will only reinforce their bad habits. A few \u201c<\/span>friendly reminders\u201d is usually all they need, but if that doesn\u2019t work, be stern and tell them<\/span>\u00a0that their mess is beginning to affect you.<\/span><\/p>\n Check out: How to Get Roommates to Clean Up<\/a><\/p>\nHERE IS HOW YOU DEAL WITH A ROOMMATE WHO:<\/strong><\/span><\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\n1. Drinks way too much (and doesn\u2019t remember anything the next day).<\/strong><\/span><\/h2>\n
2. Keeps bringing \u201cfriends\u201d over (when you\u2019re trying to sleep\u2026).<\/strong><\/span><\/h2>\n
3. NEVER leaves the dorm room and has absolutely NO social life.<\/strong><\/span><\/h2>\n
4. Piles up garbage literally everywhere.<\/strong><\/span><\/h2>\n
5. Doesn\u2019t stop talking (when you\u2019ve got exams to study for).<\/strong><\/span><\/h2>\n